Have you ever heard a song and instantly the lyrics to it resonated with you? It doesn’t happen very often (or maybe for some of you it does) but two days ago it did for me, slightly. The song was “Changing” by John Mayer (who in my eyes is still as good as ever) and after listening to it on repeat for the last 48 hours, I feel like it’s the soundtrack to my life right now. I mean, if I were to have my life made into a fun loving Rom Com, this would be the introduction track.
Just to give some explanation on it, for those of you who haven’t heard it (but are going to after you finish this post) it’s basically about how he feels like he is constantly changing and can’t settle for the same thing in his life over and over again. Pretty relatable I must say. A sample of the lyics include “Time’s been talking to me/Whispering in my ear/Saying follow your heart ’til it tears you apart/But hearts keep changing” and it made me do some thinking. Which lucky for you, I’m about to share.
For me, I understand this feeling. I sometimes live with my head in the clouds and have a hard time staying focused on the reality at hand, which makes it very easy for me to constantly dream up all the things I want to do in life and how I am going to do them. At times this can be motivating, but for the most part it’s just distacting. I do believe that we are bound to face some sort of immense change throughout our lifetimes, whether we want to or not, but I also believe that some of us are meant to explore and try new ways of living and thinking rather than following conventional paths.
From my experience, I have realized that in the last 5 years I have changed and grown in ways I did not imagine or plan. I mostly had a schedule for my life and how everything was supposed to be. But, because the Universe works in wonderful and crazy ways, my plans were changed. Which means I now have new ones but I am not as stuck on them. They are not as permanent and I have allowed them the freedom to change and fluctuate when needed. I recently said yes to a couple new opportunities that presented themselves to me, and even though they are both out of my comfort zone, I am still excited to see where they could potentially take me. That’s a big change for me. A couple years ago I would’ve put a wall up and said, “Um, no that’s not a part of my 5 year plan, so please show yourself out”. Is this ringing a bell for any of you? Do you have strict plans for your life or have you too been able to rise to new challenges that have come your way?
I kind of feel like a lot of us don’t give ourselves the opportunities to explore outside what we think are our life’s path, when really, growing and trying new things is the only way we can create more experiences and life lessons. In a way, it’s almost crucial to veer off the path you think is meant for you (even just slightly), because who knows what could be out there waiting! For some, creating a life vision is easy and attainable. While for others, like myself, it doesn’t come as easily because the world is full of so many learning opportunities and adventures, that it’s hard to just settle and pick one way of life.
And I think that’s where this song comes in. Because, like it says, I am not done changing. I want to gather experiences and see what fits best with me. It’s time to be open to new things and unexpected plans. Plus, if we are constantly changing as people, how can we expect our lives to stay the same? Now, I’m not saying you have to drastically change how you are living at this very moment, but I’m saying that it’s okay to be flexible, and it’s also okay to be content.
As for now, I’m fine with making small changes and seeing what kind of outcomes I can create. At this point I have a lot of scenarios I would like to test out and whatever path I decide to take, I’m sure it will be a good one, and if it’s not then I guess it would be time to try another one. What have you done differently lately? Are there any changes that you want to explore or implement? If so, I encourage you to take a deep breathe and a leap of faith and just go ahead and do it already. Our time is short and we might as well make the most of it.