Well it’s February 15 and all the anticipation and excitement built up for Valentine’s Day is finally over. I’m sure a lot of you had a quiet night in with your significant other, or maybe you faced the crowds and went out for a dinner and a movie. Either way, any extra time spent with the one you love is great. For you single people out there, I hope you didn’t let the day bring you down and let’s be honest, it was just another typical Tuesday for us solo people.
This year was my first time in probably 10 years that I’ve spent the overrated holiday as a single person and I definitely didn’t want it to be a sad day. It also marked the one year anniversary of me deciding to leave my marriage (how ironic) so there were definitely some mixed emotions. I planned ahead and decided to dedicate the day to myself. I was going to treat myself all day and enjoy every single second of it… by myself. It could’ve went either way really, I could’ve easily sat in bed, sobbing at love stories on Netflix, but that’s just not my thang. I felt like I deserved to do the things I wanted to and took myself on the best date I’ve had in years.
I started my day off with my typical green smoothie and enjoyed an extra hour in my pj’s. Comfort plus protein is key to starting your day off in a good mood. I kept the ball rolling and took advantage of the strangely warm weather and went out to see my favourite Galentine…my mare. We got to spend an hour together with zero distractions and worked on a few exercises and boy did it feel good. The snow can melt anytime now and jackpot season can start…
After that I did what any mom does with a free day to herself…I showered. I got to leave my conditioner in for the recommended 5 minutes and didn’t have to try and rush out, still damp, to a kid that needed my attention. It was glorious. I even put on a full face of makeup and did my hair, it was a total Cinderella moment. I then gave myself a quick wink in the mirror because damn Daniel, I was looking fly! Which, you all should be doing (to yourself, not to me) because when you feel like a million bucks, you’re more likely to pass that energy on to someone else.
Anyways…after I was all dressed up and feeling good, I did something out of my comfort zone (it’s beginning to be a recurring thing) and I met with a photographer and scheduled myself in for a Boudoir shoot. Now before you think I’m completely scandalous, I assure you it’s not going to be too outrageous. The idea of having my hair and makeup done and a whole morning dedicated to feeling beautiful was just something I couldn’t pass up. Plus, you’re only young once (YOYO) and I might as well have some nice pictures of myself to show off when I’m in an old folks home.
Now, pictured above was my favourite part of the day. For obvious reasons. I have ALWAYS wanted to indulge in a heart shaped pizza but never allowed myself to. The excuse was always that the resteraunt was always too busy to go to or else it didn’t fit into my diet. So since I’m the best date ever, I told myself it was my cheat meal and that you’re getting it to go. It was heavenly. After that pizza I really don’t know how any other Valentine’s Day is going to top the one I had this year. True story.
After indulging in that delicious love symbol, I treated myself (yet again) to a bath with the prettiest pink bath bomb and solitude of a quiet house. Us moms may get a shower every now and then but baths are a lot fewer and farther between. Plus, we’re generally exhausted at the end of the day so we don’t fully enjoy them because we’re always scared of falling asleep in there. I wish I was joking…
More food! What better way to say “I love me” than lobster tails and wine? I enjoyed a very yummy and slightly messy supper with my wonderful Mom and definitely felt full (of love) by the time we cleaned up.
I couldn’t help but miss my little guy during the evening, but I do think spending the day by myself was a good choice. For the most part I felt extremely happy and grateful as I reflected on the year that had gone by, but there were a few moments when the emotional side of things would pop up throughout the day and by being alone I was able to acknowledge them and move on. You really don’t know how quickly your life can change and a year ago I would’ve never imagined myself to be this happy or content.
I want all you single people to know that you don’t need to wait until Valentine’s Day to treat yourself and that you should be actively dating yourself EVERY SINGLE DAY. It’s not about trying to find someone to be with right away, it’s about doing things that make you feel good and allowing someone to come into your life in the midst of it. Enjoy your time, love yourself and keep persevering, good things are on their way.