Treat Yo Self 

Well it’s February 15 and all the anticipation and excitement built up for Valentine’s Day is finally over. I’m sure a lot of you had a quiet night in with your significant other, or maybe you faced the crowds and went out for a dinner and a movie. Either way, any extra time spent with the one you love is great. For you single people out there, I hope you didn’t let the day bring you down and let’s be honest, it was just another typical Tuesday for us solo people. 

This year was my first time in probably 10 years that I’ve spent the overrated holiday as a single person and I definitely didn’t want it to be a sad day. It also marked the one year anniversary of me deciding to leave my marriage (how ironic) so there were definitely some mixed emotions. I planned ahead and decided to dedicate the day to myself. I was going to treat myself all day and enjoy every single second of it… by myself. It could’ve went either way really, I could’ve easily sat in bed, sobbing at love stories on Netflix, but that’s just not my thang. I felt like I deserved to do the things I wanted to and took myself on the best date I’ve had in years. 


I started my day off with my typical green smoothie and enjoyed an extra hour in my pj’s. Comfort plus protein is key to starting your day off in a good mood. I kept the ball rolling and took advantage of the strangely warm weather and went out to see my favourite Galentine…my mare. We got to spend an hour together with zero distractions and worked on a few exercises and boy did it feel good. The snow can melt anytime now and jackpot season can start…


After that I did what any mom does with a free day to herself…I showered. I got to leave my conditioner in for the recommended 5 minutes and didn’t have to try and rush out, still damp, to a kid that needed my attention. It was glorious.  I even put on a full face of makeup and did my hair, it was a total Cinderella moment. I then gave myself a quick wink in the mirror because damn Daniel, I was looking fly! Which, you all should be doing (to yourself, not to me) because when you feel like a million bucks, you’re more likely to pass that energy on to someone else. 

Anyways…after I was all dressed up and feeling good, I did something out of my comfort zone (it’s beginning to be a recurring thing) and I met with a photographer and scheduled myself in for a Boudoir shoot. Now before you think I’m completely scandalous, I assure you it’s not going to be too outrageous. The idea of having my hair and makeup done and a whole morning dedicated to feeling beautiful was just something I couldn’t pass up. Plus, you’re only young once (YOYO) and I might as well have some nice pictures of myself to show off when I’m in an old folks home. 


Now, pictured above was my favourite part of the day. For obvious reasons. I have ALWAYS wanted to indulge in a heart shaped pizza but never allowed myself to. The excuse was always that the resteraunt was always too busy to go to or else it didn’t fit into my diet. So since I’m the best date ever, I told myself it was my cheat meal and that you’re getting it to go. It was heavenly. After that pizza I really don’t know how any other Valentine’s Day is going to top the one I had this year. True story. 


After indulging in that delicious love symbol, I treated myself (yet again) to a bath with the prettiest pink bath bomb and solitude of a quiet house. Us moms may get a shower every now and then but baths are a lot fewer and farther between. Plus, we’re generally exhausted at the end of the day so we don’t fully enjoy them because we’re always scared of falling asleep in there. I wish I was joking…


More food! What better way to say “I love me” than lobster tails and wine? I enjoyed a very yummy and slightly messy supper with my wonderful Mom and definitely felt full (of love) by the time we cleaned up. 

I couldn’t help but miss my little guy during the evening, but I do think spending the day by myself was a good choice. For the most part I felt extremely happy and grateful as I reflected on the year that had gone by, but there were a few moments when the emotional side of things would pop up throughout the day and by being alone I was able to acknowledge them and move on. You really don’t know how quickly your life can change and a year ago I would’ve never imagined myself to be this happy or content.

I want all you single people to know that you don’t need to wait until Valentine’s Day to treat yourself and that you should be actively dating yourself EVERY SINGLE DAY. It’s not about trying to find someone to be with right away, it’s about doing things that make you feel good and allowing someone to come into your life in the midst of it. Enjoy your time, love yourself and keep persevering, good things are on their way. 

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Opportunity Comes a Knockin’

If you follow me on Instagram (@danimichelle09) you may have recently noticed that I started a new business venture and am trying to learn the ropes of working from home and being my own boss. I have started up as a stylist for the wonderful company of Stella and Dot, a company that offers beautiful accessories and a chance at create a living from the comforts of my own room. After tirelessly sending out my resume to any and every job that I could find, and not recieving any phone calls back (unless to say someone else got the job) I was starting to get a bit discouraged.

I’ve never been one to give up easily, but I was starting to get a bit panicky at the thought of not being able to get a job and support myself and Casey. Thankfully, I got the call after sending my resume out for the 100th time to a job I wasn’t totally interested in (now is not the time to be picky) and I knew I had to at least try out this new adventure. Now, the thing with this kind of job is that you get what you put into it. It’s not something you are going to make millions on overnight, and if you want to fully succeed you have to attack it from a business point of view. You have to log in the hours and create goals and work at them until they are achieved. I am the kind of person who will put 110% into something if I enjoy it, and while that’s good, it can sometimes take over all of my spare time.

A Home Office Space is a Must


Working from home isn’t entirely new to me. When I was taking my Education degree by correspondence I was used to scheduling time for assignments and studying and making sure I hit all of my deadlines. That was before I had Casey. Now, I am finding it a bit hard to create a good balance between work time and Casey time, but I have been able to set aside a couple days a week to tackle any to-do items and am working around his daycare schedule. Any other moms out there who are working from home that have tips or tricks to creating a good work/mom schedule?

I also feel that since this isn’t a conventional type of career or job, that it’s a bit harder to justify to others that I could possibly make a solid income from it. We live in a very traditional area, and home based businesses aren’t something that people truly believe in. This is where I’m having to trust myself and constantly battle any thoughts of doubt or fear. We all know that new things can be scary (what else is new), but I find that it is soooo easy to have one little negative thought creep in and then all of a sudden it multiplies into a non-stop stream of worry and discouragement.


So me being the positive (and slightly spiritual) person that I am, I took it upon myself to look for strategies to combat these situations so that I can really succeed within this. Obviously we know that confident people believe in themselves 24/7, but the problem is this: how do we truly feel confident with ourselves? I did a little digging and found that mantras and self-talk were one of the top ways to boost confidence, and honestly faking it until you make it. If you believe in yourself and already envision yourself as successful, then soon others will start thinking the same and it will only snowball from there. What we put out into the Universe will come back to us, so if we are thinking we are doing great, we are successful, and we are genuinely happy, then that means we will be getting those feelings or situations given back to us. Simple enough if you have an open mind.


One strategy I found that I really liked the idea of was taking a simple phrase or word and using it anytime a negative thought popped into your head. The phrase could be anything such as your favourite short quote, a word you enjoy, or anything that makes you happy or feel good. So if you’re thinking “Oh, I’m going to fail at this new job” then you simple dismiss the comment and replace it with your uplifting phrase. Easy peasy. Since I have started doing this, I have honestly noticed a shift within myself, I’m no longer thinking about what could go wrong as much and I’m having a much easier time falling asleep at night (and I promise it’s not the wine). It’s definitely worth a shot!

If you have any other strategies or tips at being successful at home, please feel free to comment and let me know! I would greatly appreciate any feedback. With that, I hope you guys have a relaxing Sunday and start your week off on the right foot tomorrow.

The Struggle is Real 

We all know that once you’re a mom, life can get…hectic. Whether you’re a new mom, a working mom, stay at home mom or a mother to teenagers, it’s easy to say that those wonderful little miniatures of yourself keep you fairly busy. Suddenly your life revolves around them and “me time” is something as mythical as fairytales and unicorns. I kid you not.

And for those of you who have gone through or are going through the “terrible twos” with your perfect toddler, you’ll get me when I say “What the hell is happening?!” It’s almost as if overnight your sweet, mild mannered child does a complete 360 and you’re left in a mess of unrolled toilet paper rolls, playdough in your hair and a kid who’s new favourite word is NO. 

He’s still my favourite


As you can imagine, we are dealing with the extreme attitude and mood swings over here, so after a couple weeks of repeated f-bombs under my breath and grey hair inducing moments, I took it upon myself to part with my wonderful toddler (who I still really love) and get some much needed breathing room and time to myself. I visited one of my close friends and indulged in two nights of eating a meal while it was still warm, going to the bathroom by myself and of course a few glasses of wine here and there. It. Was. Amazing. 

Nature hike to sweat out the wine!

We go together like PB&J


Upon coming home, I was greeted by a rather needy and somewhat sniffly and coughing child. I didn’t mind the cuddles, because to be honest I missed the little guy, but the onset of a flu was not what I was prepared for. Fast forward to the next day and the poor kid had a nasty cough and basically looked like a zombie. After another sleepless night we were off to the hospital to get him on the mend. 

Croup. A scary, horrible sound inducing sickness that I’m sure almost everyone has encountered at least once. The cough itself is cringe worthy but the way it made him gasp for air was something else. As a parent, it’s extremely hard to see your child in pain or sick and be totally helpless to it. It’s a weird thing to describe but it’s oh so very common. The most I could do was cuddle him and keep him comfortable. It was a lot of steam showers, essential oils (shoutout to Thieves and R.C), and having a toddler connected to me 24/7. 

Gracie is a good nurse

It’s been quite the long week, and I’m definitely not one to complain, but I will say this: Moms deserve a freaking medal for looking after a sick kid or kids. It’s mentally and physically exhausting and lord knows we always have a million other things to get done, but our child always comes first. So shoutout to you mommas out there trying to keep it together through the cold and flu season. Let’s hope spring arrives early and we can get some much needed time outside and enjoy having our kids be their healthy, fun selves!