Now, I really should be packing for my weekend away but I’ve had this somewhat nagging voice in my head these last couple days telling me to write and get my words out. So I figured I might as well do it now because this weekend will definitely be too busy to sit and blog. Fun fact: I’m going to Banff for my second half marathon and am beyond excited to be surrounded by mountains. It’s a girl’s weekend and it’s a very welcomed break (minus the 21km of running).
So the thing I want to talk about today is more geared towards us women, but could definitely be applied to men as well. But, that’s up to you. What I want to discuss is a little thing I call respect. For today’s purpose, it’s in the focus of relationships. Now, given I am no expert in this department, but I have been through my fair share of…how do I say this nicely…BS. I feel like I’m finally back on my feet and kicking ass and taking names and I want to empower more women and let them know that they are worthy of good things, especially when it comes to relationships.
In the sense of relationships, one of the biggest things I have noticed and have come to realize is that if there is no respect within a relationship, then there is no point in staying in it. Seems pretty common sense but you’d be surprised at how it can slowly creep in and take over. You sometimes think that you can build it up and “work” on it, but trust me when I say this, there’s no way that’s ever going to change a disrespectful man. They’re already set in their ways and are in no hurry to fix themselves.
It crushes me to see women with men who have zero interest in respecting her, her belongings and her overall interests and personal life. Ladies, I’m here to tell you that if he’s pushing your boundaries and overstepping and making you feel less than great early on, it’s not going to change. Ever. Get out now because once he’s established having no respect for you it will only snowball and start causing emotional stress on you. Pretty soon you start to see these smart, beautiful, fiery women feeling insecure and hiding their real selves because the “boy” they’re with has made them feel that way. This may be coming across as a rant, but I feel very passionate about this because I’ve dealt with it. It sucks and it’s hard to come to terms with. Plus, this is my way of finally letting go of some of my old baggage, so bear with me here.
You don’t realize at the time that those are components of a bad relationship until you are out of it. It’s very easy to get caught up in it and many times you wind up blaming yourself because you’re so used to feeling low. A good relationship doesn’t leave you questioning whether you’re a good person or not. A good relationship is one where you can be yourself, where you’re not walking on eggshells and not in a constant state of anxiety.
So please, if you have respect for yourself, don’t allow someone else to take it away from you and dangle it over your head. There are far better things out there, and people, who are willing to work with you and build you up and make you feel like your best self. It may not seem like it right away, but I guarantee you you will cross paths with someone who likes you exactly for who you are and who will treat you like the queen you are.
Life should be fun, relationships should be uplifting and you should radiate that self love like there’s no tomorrow. So all in all, if you respect yourself, you’ll find someone who feels the same way and who will ultimately make you believe in fairytales again. Don’t let a bad relationship ruin your future ones, see it as a lesson and vow to never let it happen again. You can always learn from them and build yourself back up, but just make sure you take the time to find someone who doesn’t tear you back down. There’s good men out there, be patient.
So there’s your pep talk for the weekend. Time to be the boss babe you were always meant to be and like the saying goes, keep your chin up and don’t let boys be mean to you ✌🏼