I can’t believe it’s been almost a month since I last posted something…time has seriously gotten away from me. The last couple weeks, well actually all of March so far, has been busy and has thrown me a few new, interesting experiences. So to say I have been slightly preoccupied with them would be an understatement. Hurray for new experiences! Anyways, moving on to today’s topic…
So I’m a control freak. I admit it. I have a hard time allowing things to progress naturally and on their own and I have a tendency to want to make things hurry up and happen and control the outcome. Thankfullyyyyy I have learned that this approach doesn’t generally make situations better and can make them fall flat before they even take off. I always have the mentality that I should be DOING something and that if I’m not then there’s no way this situation will ever evolve. And this is wrong. Sometimes.
For the most part, I will agree that yes, if you want something to happen you need to at least put some effort into it (wishful thinking won’t produce an outcome) BUT sometimes once you’ve done your part, taking a step back can actually help it grow. Seems crazy, but let me elaborate…
Everything including relationships, friendships, businesses etc. all have their own way of progressing and sometimes they will take longer than what we typically want. The issue arises when we start to get impatient and FORCE things to move forward before they are ready to. We step in and alter the natural flow of things…which is a pretty big red flag. When we start to become fixated on the timeline of things and start to *slightly* panic, we often will try to take control of the situation (ahem…me) so that we can ease our worries and reach the finish line in record time. Unfortunately, this can mess with a few things. Sometimes things haven’t fallen into place yet, there’s still a few loose ends or if we’re talking about relationships here, the other person gets freaked out and bolts (just kidding…they just won’t text you back). It’s a struggle, especially if you’re someone like me who has a hard time sitting back and allowing things to unfold at their own pace. Luckily though, if you can overcome this desperate, impatient attitude then the rewards are pretty worthwhile…it just may take a while to release those feelings. Zoiks.
Of course I’ve been experimenting with this, there were a few areas in my life that I was CONSTANTLY trying to manipulate and change for the better but I wasn’t doing it with the right energy or mindset. I was worrying about it, I was desperate for this change and I was getting way too far ahead of myself. What I was putting out there were stressful thoughts about how badly I needed this change to occur and what I was being met with were multiple blocks and stalls in progress. It was beyond frustrating and I couldn’t figure out how to just LET IT GO. So I did what any other person would do….I said f*ck it, I’ll focus on what I do have right now and I don’t *care* if these others things happen (but I really did). I gave my mind a break and promised to just leave those wishful changes in the back of my mind for another time. I also took a leap of faith and started a vision board, because really, I had nothing to lose and I was exhausted from the mental stress that I was putting myself through.
And guess what? That damn board has worked (so far). The whole point of a vision board is to put images/pictures/mantras together of what you want for yourself and look at it every single day. You visualize your ideal life on a daily basis and this activates the good old Law of Attraction to bring in people, situations and resources that will help you move towards your goals. Cool right? It keeps you focused on WHAT you want to accomplish and engages you to start actively seeking out ways to make it a reality. I was pretty skeptical to begin with but within 2-3 weeks I started to notice changes. Things all of a sudden started falling into place business related and through a random outing I landed the number to quite an intriguing individual (the outcome of this is still unknown, so chill). What I’m getting at is that by doing this vision board I was able to still FEEL like I was doing something, WITHOUT forcing anything to happen. I allowed myself to just embrace that these things were coming and to carry on with a much more positive and hopeful attitude. Mindsets guys….it makes a difference I’m telling ya.
I now feel like I can allow things to flow and that as long as I keep putting my best foot forward and keep trying my best, what’s meant to happen, will. Plus, it doesn’t hurt to set my sights on what I want and to have that visual reminder everyday of how my life CAN (and will) look. Whether you’re a skeptic or not, and if you try this or not (you do you, I don’t care) I’m just giving you my side of things. Making progress and growing in all areas of life is my main goal (and that may differ from yours) so take what you need from this and apply what you want. Either way, I’m going to continue to “go with the flow” and see what happens. Give it a try, you just might like it 😉