Most of you have probably heard of the saying “your vibe attracts your tribe” and whether you think it matters or it doesn’t, I’m here to convince you that it most certainly does matter. Allow me to explain…
When you consistently have people around you who focus in on the negative, who love nothing more than tearing people down and who always find a way to play “victim” and place blame on others, then guess what? It’s very likely that you’re feeling these things as well. When we allow our vibrations to be lowered, then that is what we ultimately attract. If you’re always down in the dumps, unhappy with your life and are dealing with bullshit on a daily basis, then you are more likely to surround yourself with people who feel the same way. Misery loves company and falling into this trap can REALLY squash your full potential. Seriously, if you feel like life has been tough on you and that you’re stuck in a fog of negative thoughts then I want you to look at the 5 people who you are closest with. Are they in the same boat? Do they have a tendency to be a negative Nancy? Are they constantly in a poor mood? If you said yes, then you may want to re-think your friendship/relationship with these people. Trust me on this one. I know you’re probably panicking and thinking “I can’t do that! They’re my friends! What will I do without them?!” but I want you to look at the bigger picture and focus in on your well being. Do these “friends” inspire you? Do they push you to be a better version of yourself? Do they leave you feeling uplifted or drained? It’s a form of self care to surround yourself with people who better you. It’s not selfish and it most certainly isn’t a bad thing. The moment you start to weed out the ones who bring your self-confidence down and start replacing them with people who motivate you, is the moment when you can start living more happily.
I’m telling you this because it’s something I have noticed and gone through over the years. I have a tendency to take on other people’s vibes/energies easily and if I’m constantly around someone who is negative then I will definitely start feeling that way too. BUT the same goes for when I surround myself with people who are bursting with positive, happy energy. I feed off of it. Nothing is more inspiring or motivating than being around someone who is driven, excited and passionate about life. That’s the kind of energy I want. I want to be able to have people around me that I can go to for a collaboration of ideas, who will push me out of my comfort zone and who will be just as proud and happy for my success as they are of their own. THESE are the people who you should be seeking as well. The ones who clap for you when you reach a milestone, the ones who give you pep talks when you’re doubting yourself and the ones who will pick you up and tell you to get your shit together because you deserve the best. They are the ones who will be there every step of the way, the ones who will bring out your highest potential, who will empower you and make you want to be a better person. Do not let these people go once you have found them. Having that exchange of energy will be the best thing for you. You will ultimately be in a friendship/relationship that allows EVERYONE to grow and that dear readers, is a very beautiful thing. This is something that most people strive for and something that they will cherish for their entire lives, it’s definitely not something that you take for granted.
Now, I’m writing this with (happy) tears in my eyes because I know that I have surrounded myself with some amazing people over the years. I’m lucky enough to have some incredibly successful, talented, driven people in my corner and lately, they have made me extremely proud. When I see a friend kill it in their career, their personal life or their goals, I BEAM with pride. Nothing makes me happier than to see my friends or family work their asses off and reap the rewards that they rightfully deserve. They are all so uplifting and because of them I have been able to turn my messy life around and get my feet back on solid ground. They inspire me everyday. And I’m not being dramatic or embellishing this (for reals). My people are ambitious educators, kind souls, fierce entrepreneurs, creators of art, vessels of immense knowledge and the kind of people who are (and will be) making a difference in our world. They look for ways to help one another out, they are the most selfless people I know and they are extremely humble with their many talents, which I greatly respect. Mutual respect is something I yearn for and look for in ALL my relationships/friendships and is usually a good indicator that I’m on the right track when it comes to who I allow into my life. Finding people who have mad respect for you correlates into having people who will build you up and encourage you to keep going, even when you don’t want to. And that is so important, I can’t stress that enough. Find those people and be prepared to watch your life change for the better.
So I urge you to find a tribe that makes you feel like a ray of sunshine. People with different backgrounds, points of views and a drive to achieve their lists of goals. You decide who and where your energy goes, so choose wisely and put it towards people who will bring more greatness into your life. You owe it to yourself to have people cheering you on and helping you when you slip off track. Great friendships are a balance between giving and taking radiant, positive energy and you will never regret having people around you who are good for your well being. At the end of the day the choice is yours…but I strongly encourage you to find the ones who will light your soul on fire and who will help you build your road to success.
Take care out there peeps xoxox
and P.S….thanks to my band of people for inspiring this post, you know who you are 😉