Ladies! Listen Up…

Now, I really should be packing for my weekend away but I’ve had this somewhat nagging voice in my head these last couple days telling me to write and get my words out. So I figured I might as well do it now because this weekend will definitely be too busy to sit and blog. Fun fact: I’m going to Banff for my second half marathon and am beyond excited to be surrounded by mountains. It’s a girl’s weekend and it’s a very welcomed break (minus the 21km of running). 

So the thing I want to talk about today is more geared towards us women, but could definitely be applied to men as well. But, that’s up to you. What I want to discuss is a little thing I call respect. For today’s purpose, it’s in the focus of relationships. Now, given I am no expert in this department, but I have been through my fair share of…how do I say this nicely…BS. I feel like I’m finally back on my feet and kicking ass and taking names and I want to empower more women and let them know that they are worthy of good things, especially when it comes to relationships. 


In the sense of relationships, one of the biggest things I have noticed and have come to realize is that if there is no respect within a relationship, then there is no point in staying in it. Seems pretty common sense but you’d be surprised at how it can slowly creep in and take over. You sometimes think that you can build it up and “work” on it, but trust me when I say this, there’s no way that’s ever going to change a disrespectful man. They’re already set in their ways and are in no hurry to fix themselves.

It crushes me to see women with men who have zero interest in respecting her, her belongings and her overall interests and personal life. Ladies, I’m here to tell you that if he’s pushing your boundaries and overstepping and making you feel less than great early on, it’s not going to change. Ever. Get out now because once he’s established having no respect for you it will only snowball and start causing emotional stress on you. Pretty soon you start to see these smart, beautiful, fiery women feeling insecure and hiding their real selves because the “boy” they’re with has made them feel that way. This may be coming across as a rant, but I feel very passionate about this because I’ve dealt with it. It sucks and it’s hard to come to terms with. Plus, this is my way of finally letting go of some of my old baggage, so bear with me here. 

You don’t realize at the time that those are components of a bad relationship until you are out of it. It’s very easy to get caught up in it and many times you wind up blaming yourself because you’re so used to feeling low. A good relationship doesn’t leave you questioning whether you’re a good person or not. A good relationship is one where you can be yourself, where you’re not walking on eggshells and not in a constant state of anxiety. 

So please, if you have respect for yourself, don’t allow someone else to take it away from you and dangle it over your head. There are far better things out there, and people, who are willing to work with you and build you up and make you feel like your best self. It may not seem like it right away, but I guarantee you you will cross paths with someone who likes you exactly for who you are and who will treat you like the queen you are.


 Life should be fun, relationships should be uplifting and you should radiate that self love like there’s no tomorrow. So all in all, if you respect yourself, you’ll find someone who feels the same way and who will ultimately make you believe in fairytales again. Don’t let a bad relationship ruin your future ones, see it as a lesson and vow to never let it happen again. You can always learn from them and build yourself back up, but just make sure you take the time to find someone who doesn’t tear you back down. There’s good men out there, be patient. 

So there’s your pep talk for the weekend. Time to be the boss babe you were always meant to be and like the saying goes, keep your chin up and don’t let boys be mean to you ✌🏼 

Collecting My Thoughts 

I was going to write about my health and fitness journey, at least that’s what I had planned in my head over the last couple weeks, but now that I’m here, on the deck, with my coffee, I don’t feel like that’s where my thoughts are. Someday soon I’ll dive into that and share with you all the ups and downs I’ve so graciously experienced, but today I think I just want to talk about life as of late. This post is more for me to get my thoughts out so just a heads up, it may not spark interest in you all. But please read on if you’re looking for something to do…


Some of you may know this already, but for those who don’t, I have recently taken over a nutrition business and I finally feel like I’m on the right path (whoop whoop). It’s been a long learning curve for me, especially the business side of things, but it also feels oddly normal and routine. Meeting with clients and sharing their successes and missteps has been absolutely awe inspiring and I’ve gotten a sense of “this is exactly what you need to be doing in life” and for the first time ever, I feel comfortable with the direction I am heading in. 

Now, with that, I’ve also had to do some adjusting with the other aspects in my life. My biggest one right now is the time I’ve had with my horses and the barrel racing season here. My time with my mares is near and dear to my heart and something I couldn’t live without (for reals). Normally, I would be riding every night, planning out jackpots and rodeos for the summer and stocking my trailer with the necessities needed for a weekend away. This was a big part of my life in previous years and I’m slowly coming to terms with it being less of a priority this time around. It’s tough, because I absolutely love it and want Casey to experience that side of things, but at the same time my focus is on our future, building this business up and creating a life that is great for him and I. Now I’m not saying that I will be completely stopping, because let’s be honest, that would be a true heart break, but I’m looking at it as a much needed time out. Sometimes in life we have to sacrifice things we completely enjoy in order to advance to more personal goals, and that’s absolutely okay. 

With that off my chest (this is my stress relief remember?) I just wanted to quickly dabble in what I’ve been doing to keep my anxiety in check and how I’ve been keeping those great outcomes coming my way. Call me crazy (which I’m sure some do), but I whole heartedly believe in the law of attraction. Years ago I kind of half assed the thought of it and how the Universe will serve you back what you put out, and I honestly didn’t take it that seriously. Yes, it sounded cool and somewhat doable, but I never truly put it into practice. Fast forward to now though and you can find me sending out positive vibes like there’s no tomorrow. With this practice, I’ve found that when done consistently, it actually does work on a few levels. 

Picturing the outcome I want to achieve, rather than spending hours replaying stressful, made up scenarios in my head (we all do it) has been the biggest help so far. With any goal or dream that I set, I focus on how it would feel when I achieve it. I picture my exact emotions and sense of accomplishment when I’ve finally attained it and act as if it’s already been done. You have to embrace what you want and the more specific you are, the better. The Universe (or whatever you want to call it) takes exactly what you put forth and will always bring those situations or feelings back to you. 

You may think I’m off my rocker, but I dare you to try it. Shift your thinking and refocus your aspirations. Try to set a goal for the near future and work towards it, but get rid of the apprehension and replace it with excitement and gratefulness. By telling the Universe how happy you are to have this goal accomplished and how wonderful it feels to you, it will give it back to you and allow it all to come full circle. Trust in the process and be patient. It’ll all be worth it. It’s easy to get discouraged but if you keep working at it, you will achieve it. Simple right? Try adding this into your daily routine and give yourself a pat on the back for every stepping stone that you reach. And if all else fails you can say I’m full of it and go after your goals in your own way 😉 

And with that my friends, I’m off to go accumulate my own positive energy and I wish you all a very great weekend ☺️ 

Thursday Thoughts

Today I just wanted to share a quick, meaningful post with you all. Since the weekend I’ve been feeling “off” and my usual pep in my step has somehow dissapeared. I could blame it on a few things, such as a busy schedule, trying to balance time with Casey and time for myself or the fact that I’m not sure how I’m going to successfully juggle the million things that need to be done this month. For some reason, I’ve had bouts of insecurities creep up, along with the usual duo of doubt and fear. Now, deep down I know that these feelings start up whenever I’m in certain situations, and clearly that’s a personal problem I’m still working on fully overcoming, but since I already know where they stem from, I’m trying my hardest to acknowledge these thoughts and MOVE ON. 

Thankfully I’ve been reading a great book, which the timing is perfect on, because it is helping me tremendously. The book is “You are a BADASS. How to stop doubting your greatness and start living an awesome life” by Jen Sincero. It’s definitely opened my eyes to my old, detrimental thought patterns and behaviours, and is allowing me to actively focus on creating a better reality for myself. Of course, it’s going to take time to completely ditch the old ego and ways of thinking, but I honestly would be a twin to Eeyore right now if I didn’t have this book to tell me to stop being a baby and create my own circumstances, instead of wallowing in them. Seriously, go to Amazon and get this book, I promise you won’t be disappointed. 


What I wanted to get across is that it’s ok to have down days, just don’t stay there. Even though I look on the brighter side of things 99% of the time, I still have days where I feel like staying in my pj’s all day and hiding from the world. We’re all human, we’re allowed to have feelings and stumble a bit in life, but please don’t stop there. I can’t even count how many times I’ve hit roadblocks in life, and if I stopped and gave up at each one I would be living a pretty sad, crummy life. 


So, as part of my “healing and overcoming” I’m going to share 3 things I’m grateful for right now and I encourage you to do the same, no matter your mood. Try to be specific, the more detail you go into, the better. 

I’m grateful for…

  1. A roof over my head. Given the situation, I’m lucky to have parents who live here and who had extra space for Casey and I. 
  2. Casey’s health and happiness. I’m forever grateful to have a boy who is healthy and so full of life. 
  3. Friends who genuinely care about me. It’s the best feeling knowing that I have a group of people I can go to about anything, without judgement. 


With that, I hope you’re all kicking ass at whatever goals you’ve made or obstacles you’re facing. The weekend is almost here, hang in there! 

The Dating Game

Alright, the time has come to talk about…dating. Now, before you get all excited at the prospect of new gossip, I regret to inform you that alas, I am still solo. But, to be fair, it’s by choice, although it has crossed my mind a fair amount this last little while. The thing is, I’ve been dwelling on this for some time. It’s been over a year now and I kind of feel like it may be time to jump back in and see what’s out there. Except the thought of dating makes me want to hurl. So there’s that. I was also going to title this post “The Dating Game: A Single Girl’s Nightmare” but felt that would set a pretty ominous tone and I’m trying to stay positive about this chapter in life…

Let’s be honest though, it’s just so…awkward. Dating in high school is one thing, but dating after divorce with a child is a totally different ball park that I have no clue how to maneuver through. It’s been a solid 10 years since I’ve had to partake in it and let me tell you, I wasn’t exactly an all star at it before. My introverted side tells me to just hang out at home and bask in the comforts of my own space while I wait for someone to magically appear, while my extroverted side is screaming at me and telling me I’ll never meet anyone if I never leave the house. The struggle is real.

Plus, there’s so many variables about the whole dating scene. What are the rules? The expectations? It turns out that in this day and age, there’s a ton. You could be texting and chatting with someone for months on end, thinking it’s going somewhere, when all of a sudden you’re faced with the friend zone and a confused look on your face. Or better yet, you get “ghosted” (a new term I learned to feel hip and cool) and all that time you spent talking basically led to the other person disappearing…with no explanation. Oh how fun. And even better, there’s rules on texting now! Did you know that a double text (two texts right after each other) is seen as needy and desperate and something you should never do? If you’re like me, you did not know this. And you don’t overly care. Clearly I need to pick up a new Cosmo every once in a while to properly understand these “techniques” *insert the biggest eye roll you’ve ever seen*

Next, and this is a big one, is the time you invest. As I slowly approach the idea of dating, I worry that I won’t have time to properly invest in someone. Between raising a high energy boy and attempting to work and make a stable income, I don’t exactly have a lot of free time. And when I do, I usually already have a plan on how I’ll spend it, so it’s going to take someone pretty special to fill it up. Take note.

On a brighter note, this year has been filled with A LOT of reflection and deciding what I need/want in terms of a potential relationship. It has taken a lot of confidence boosters, positive self talk and learning to love myself to get me comfortable with the idea of being with someone new and I must say, I’m feeling pretty good about the whole idea. It was almost like I had an epiphany like Jess from New Girl when she bursts out of her room yelling “I’M READY” to everyone, despite elaborating  on the fact she meant she’s ready to start dating again. We share the same awkwardness so it seemed fitting.

Amen to that sister 🙌🏻


I guess what I wanted to get across today is that no matter your situation, dating is not an easy or fun thing to start or do. There’s a lot of small talk, sweaty hands, one too many drinks to calm the nerves and sometimes hurt feelings. Obviously I’m going to take baby steps and stay optimistic about it all, but high fives to all of you that are enduring this awkward stage in life. It’s a lot to think about, especially after a separation, but I’m hopeful. I suppose that’s all you can be really, blindly optimistic that there is someone out there who will compliment you in ways no one has before. We are all worthy of love, no matter our past, and I do have faith that there’s someone for everyone. Plus, I don’t think I’m ready to own 30 cats just yet 😉

 

 

 

 

 

Live and Learn 

This week hosts a couple of milestones, the first being that it’ll be the 1 year anniversary of this blog! Wow, that went by fast. I remember agonizing over starting it and the anxiety that came with writing those first couple posts. Now, I can’t wait to sit and write, it’s a huge stress reliever! Funny how that works. Then, on top of that I will be turning the ripe old age of 26 on Thursday, which directly correlates with the topic I chose to write about…

I wanted to sit down and reflect on life (because isn’t that what you do when you have a birthday coming up?) and look at all the things I have come to know and learn in my 26 years of age. Now it probably isn’t a very vast or exciting list, but I can’t deny that I have had some pretty, let’s say, “interesting” experiences that have helped shape who I am today. So with that I’ll jump right in (I told myself I wouldn’t write a novel for you guys, let’s see if I can stick to that…)

26 Lessons I’ve Learned in 26 Years

  1. Turning 18 does not make you an adult in all aspects of life. Looking back, at 18 we were still such kids with soooo much to learn and go through. Stop thinking you need your life figured out as soon as you hit that age. Enjoy it!
  2. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t second guess it. I don’t know how many times I talked myself out of feeling “off” only to have it blow up in my face and my inner voice telling me “I told you so”. Trust your gut, it’s usually right.
  3. Be confident when saying no to a person or situation. It’s okay to have a backbone and be assertive, because if you don’t do it for yourself nobody else will.
  4. Stop making excuses. You are in total control of your life (to an extent) and if you keep making excuses you are allowing goals and dreams to slip out of your grasp. Plus, excuses usually lead to complaining, and nobody likes a complainer.
  5. Want something? Go get it. So many times I thought certain things were unattainable, but eventually I learned to sit down, write out what I wanted and the steps I was going to take to make it happen. It really does work!
  6. Focus on your own life and quit worrying about others. Nobody follows the same path in life, so just because you’re taking a different route doesn’t mean you’re less than anyone else. This was a huge thing for me!
  7. Stop associating with negative people. Misery loves company, and if you find yourself surrounded by this kind of energy on a daily basis, you’ll start acting the same way. Take a step back and find people with as much passion and joy as you have.
  8. Sometimes things don’t work out, and that’s okay. Life can throw curve balls and how you react to them will determine how you overcome them.
  9. If you can’t control it, don’t stress over it. This was something that was difficult for me to learn, but it was such a huge relief when I finally accepted it.
  10. Be open minded. A lot of times it’s easy to get stuck on one idea. If it doesn’t work out, it likely wasn’t meant for you. A lot of times when an opportunity passes us it’s because better things are on their way. Do the work and what’s meant for you will come.
  11. Don’t let people take advantage of you. This applies to all areas in life. The workplace, friendships, home life, relationships. If you’re continuously giving and not getting anything in return, it may be time to re-evaluate the situation.
  12. Your happiness and health comes first. It’s not being selfish if you put an emphasis on what makes you happy because if you’re enjoying life and feeling good, you will apply that to everything else. Stop putting others needs and wants first if yours are not being met.
  13. Do not chase people. I can’t emphasize this enough. If you have to convince someone to stay in your life, you’ve already lost. Plus, why would you want someone in your life who doesn’t want to be there? Let them walk and move on. Trust me on this one, there are people out there willing to make you a priority!
  14. Support your friends and family. Be there for them. You never know when you’re going to need a shoulder to cry on or that extra backup when making a tough decision. It’s easy to pick up the phone, so call, text, and keep in touch with those important people in your life.
  15. Be confident in yourself!! In your looks and in your life choices. There is no shame in the way you look or how you are choosing to live your life. Your opinion of yourself is the only one that matters.
  16. Don’t get caught up in a relationship that takes time away from your friendships. Enough said.
  17. Stemming from that, be wary of a relationship that stresses you out. If it doesn’t make you feel good and causes you anxiety, then you’re better off without it.
  18. Don’t let your ego get in your way. Sometimes you have to do things you said you’d never do and that’s all part of life.
  19. Start a savings account. This may seem simple, but it is such an important thing. You never know what could happen, so put a percentage of each month’s paycheque into your savings. Plus it’s great if you’re just starting out on your own or want to travel.
  20. Take time to find balance. Don’t run yourself into the ground. Learn that rest is just as important as the hustle. Exhausted people are not efficient people.
  21. Think before you speak. No brainer, but sometimes it’s easy to say things that we later regret, and that’s never a good feeling.
  22. Stop feeling guilty!! Guilt is by far the worst and easiest emotion to feel. It will not change anything, so its best to just let whatever it is you’re feeling guilty about go. Wish I had learned this sooner!
  23. Take care of yourself. Both mentally and physically. If you’re feeling down, seek help. You only get this one body, so make sure it’s one that will last. Yeah pizza is great, but so is feeling healthy, so make sure to balance that out when you can.
  24. Don’t be afraid of getting out of that comfort zone. By doing things that scare me, I’ve been able to meet some great new people and partake in opportunities that I would’ve missed before by being “safe”.
  25. You’ll be okay if someone tells you no. You are going to run into this a lot, so you might as well come to terms with hearing it. It doesn’t mean you should give up, it just means you need to approach things differently or look at it from a different perspective.
  26. Last, but not least, good things come to those who work. I’ve learned that you can’t sit around and wait for things to happen. You have to put in the time and effort and eventually it will all come together. Be patient and persevere. Being a hard worker always shows and you will open so many doors for yourself with just that one quality.

And there you have it. It’s a lot to read, so if you’ve made it this far, thank you! I hope you guys have a great week and if you have anything to add, feel free to comment below 🙂

Treat Yo Self 

Well it’s February 15 and all the anticipation and excitement built up for Valentine’s Day is finally over. I’m sure a lot of you had a quiet night in with your significant other, or maybe you faced the crowds and went out for a dinner and a movie. Either way, any extra time spent with the one you love is great. For you single people out there, I hope you didn’t let the day bring you down and let’s be honest, it was just another typical Tuesday for us solo people. 

This year was my first time in probably 10 years that I’ve spent the overrated holiday as a single person and I definitely didn’t want it to be a sad day. It also marked the one year anniversary of me deciding to leave my marriage (how ironic) so there were definitely some mixed emotions. I planned ahead and decided to dedicate the day to myself. I was going to treat myself all day and enjoy every single second of it… by myself. It could’ve went either way really, I could’ve easily sat in bed, sobbing at love stories on Netflix, but that’s just not my thang. I felt like I deserved to do the things I wanted to and took myself on the best date I’ve had in years. 


I started my day off with my typical green smoothie and enjoyed an extra hour in my pj’s. Comfort plus protein is key to starting your day off in a good mood. I kept the ball rolling and took advantage of the strangely warm weather and went out to see my favourite Galentine…my mare. We got to spend an hour together with zero distractions and worked on a few exercises and boy did it feel good. The snow can melt anytime now and jackpot season can start…


After that I did what any mom does with a free day to herself…I showered. I got to leave my conditioner in for the recommended 5 minutes and didn’t have to try and rush out, still damp, to a kid that needed my attention. It was glorious.  I even put on a full face of makeup and did my hair, it was a total Cinderella moment. I then gave myself a quick wink in the mirror because damn Daniel, I was looking fly! Which, you all should be doing (to yourself, not to me) because when you feel like a million bucks, you’re more likely to pass that energy on to someone else. 

Anyways…after I was all dressed up and feeling good, I did something out of my comfort zone (it’s beginning to be a recurring thing) and I met with a photographer and scheduled myself in for a Boudoir shoot. Now before you think I’m completely scandalous, I assure you it’s not going to be too outrageous. The idea of having my hair and makeup done and a whole morning dedicated to feeling beautiful was just something I couldn’t pass up. Plus, you’re only young once (YOYO) and I might as well have some nice pictures of myself to show off when I’m in an old folks home. 


Now, pictured above was my favourite part of the day. For obvious reasons. I have ALWAYS wanted to indulge in a heart shaped pizza but never allowed myself to. The excuse was always that the resteraunt was always too busy to go to or else it didn’t fit into my diet. So since I’m the best date ever, I told myself it was my cheat meal and that you’re getting it to go. It was heavenly. After that pizza I really don’t know how any other Valentine’s Day is going to top the one I had this year. True story. 


After indulging in that delicious love symbol, I treated myself (yet again) to a bath with the prettiest pink bath bomb and solitude of a quiet house. Us moms may get a shower every now and then but baths are a lot fewer and farther between. Plus, we’re generally exhausted at the end of the day so we don’t fully enjoy them because we’re always scared of falling asleep in there. I wish I was joking…


More food! What better way to say “I love me” than lobster tails and wine? I enjoyed a very yummy and slightly messy supper with my wonderful Mom and definitely felt full (of love) by the time we cleaned up. 

I couldn’t help but miss my little guy during the evening, but I do think spending the day by myself was a good choice. For the most part I felt extremely happy and grateful as I reflected on the year that had gone by, but there were a few moments when the emotional side of things would pop up throughout the day and by being alone I was able to acknowledge them and move on. You really don’t know how quickly your life can change and a year ago I would’ve never imagined myself to be this happy or content.

I want all you single people to know that you don’t need to wait until Valentine’s Day to treat yourself and that you should be actively dating yourself EVERY SINGLE DAY. It’s not about trying to find someone to be with right away, it’s about doing things that make you feel good and allowing someone to come into your life in the midst of it. Enjoy your time, love yourself and keep persevering, good things are on their way. 

Opportunity Comes a Knockin’

If you follow me on Instagram (@danimichelle09) you may have recently noticed that I started a new business venture and am trying to learn the ropes of working from home and being my own boss. I have started up as a stylist for the wonderful company of Stella and Dot, a company that offers beautiful accessories and a chance at create a living from the comforts of my own room. After tirelessly sending out my resume to any and every job that I could find, and not recieving any phone calls back (unless to say someone else got the job) I was starting to get a bit discouraged.

I’ve never been one to give up easily, but I was starting to get a bit panicky at the thought of not being able to get a job and support myself and Casey. Thankfully, I got the call after sending my resume out for the 100th time to a job I wasn’t totally interested in (now is not the time to be picky) and I knew I had to at least try out this new adventure. Now, the thing with this kind of job is that you get what you put into it. It’s not something you are going to make millions on overnight, and if you want to fully succeed you have to attack it from a business point of view. You have to log in the hours and create goals and work at them until they are achieved. I am the kind of person who will put 110% into something if I enjoy it, and while that’s good, it can sometimes take over all of my spare time.

A Home Office Space is a Must


Working from home isn’t entirely new to me. When I was taking my Education degree by correspondence I was used to scheduling time for assignments and studying and making sure I hit all of my deadlines. That was before I had Casey. Now, I am finding it a bit hard to create a good balance between work time and Casey time, but I have been able to set aside a couple days a week to tackle any to-do items and am working around his daycare schedule. Any other moms out there who are working from home that have tips or tricks to creating a good work/mom schedule?

I also feel that since this isn’t a conventional type of career or job, that it’s a bit harder to justify to others that I could possibly make a solid income from it. We live in a very traditional area, and home based businesses aren’t something that people truly believe in. This is where I’m having to trust myself and constantly battle any thoughts of doubt or fear. We all know that new things can be scary (what else is new), but I find that it is soooo easy to have one little negative thought creep in and then all of a sudden it multiplies into a non-stop stream of worry and discouragement.


So me being the positive (and slightly spiritual) person that I am, I took it upon myself to look for strategies to combat these situations so that I can really succeed within this. Obviously we know that confident people believe in themselves 24/7, but the problem is this: how do we truly feel confident with ourselves? I did a little digging and found that mantras and self-talk were one of the top ways to boost confidence, and honestly faking it until you make it. If you believe in yourself and already envision yourself as successful, then soon others will start thinking the same and it will only snowball from there. What we put out into the Universe will come back to us, so if we are thinking we are doing great, we are successful, and we are genuinely happy, then that means we will be getting those feelings or situations given back to us. Simple enough if you have an open mind.


One strategy I found that I really liked the idea of was taking a simple phrase or word and using it anytime a negative thought popped into your head. The phrase could be anything such as your favourite short quote, a word you enjoy, or anything that makes you happy or feel good. So if you’re thinking “Oh, I’m going to fail at this new job” then you simple dismiss the comment and replace it with your uplifting phrase. Easy peasy. Since I have started doing this, I have honestly noticed a shift within myself, I’m no longer thinking about what could go wrong as much and I’m having a much easier time falling asleep at night (and I promise it’s not the wine). It’s definitely worth a shot!

If you have any other strategies or tips at being successful at home, please feel free to comment and let me know! I would greatly appreciate any feedback. With that, I hope you guys have a relaxing Sunday and start your week off on the right foot tomorrow.

Changing

Have you ever heard a song and instantly the lyrics to it resonated with you? It doesn’t happen very often (or maybe for some of you it does) but two days ago it did for me, slightly. The song was “Changing” by John Mayer (who in my eyes is still as good as ever) and after listening to it on repeat for the last 48 hours, I feel like it’s the soundtrack to my life right now. I mean, if I were to have my life made into a fun loving Rom Com, this would be the introduction track.

Check it out ☝🏼


Just to give some explanation on it, for those of you who haven’t heard it (but are going to after you finish this post) it’s basically about how he feels like he is constantly changing and can’t settle for the same thing in his life over and over again. Pretty relatable I must say. A sample of the lyics include “Time’s been talking to me/Whispering in my ear/Saying follow your heart ’til it tears you apart/But hearts keep changing” and it made me do some thinking. Which lucky for you, I’m about to share.


For me, I understand this feeling. I sometimes live with my head in the clouds and have a hard time staying focused on the reality at hand, which makes it very easy for me to constantly dream up all the things I want to do in life and how I am going to do them. At times this can be motivating, but for the most part it’s just distacting. I do believe that we are bound to face some sort of immense change throughout our lifetimes, whether we want to or not, but I also believe that some of us are meant to explore and try new ways of living and thinking rather than following conventional paths.

From my experience, I have realized that in the last 5 years I have changed and grown in ways I did not imagine or plan. I mostly had a schedule for my life and how everything was supposed to be. But, because the Universe works in wonderful and crazy ways, my plans were changed. Which means I now have new ones but I am not as stuck on them. They are not as permanent and I have allowed them the freedom to change and fluctuate when needed. I recently said yes to a couple new opportunities that presented themselves to me, and even though they are both out of my comfort zone, I am still excited to see where they could potentially take me. That’s a big change for me. A couple years ago I would’ve put a wall up and said, “Um, no that’s not a part of my 5 year plan, so please show yourself out”. Is this ringing a bell for any of you? Do you have strict plans for your life or have you too been able to rise to new challenges that have come your way?

I kind of feel like a lot of us don’t give ourselves the opportunities to explore outside what we think are our life’s path, when really, growing and trying new things is the only way we can create more experiences and life lessons. In a way, it’s almost crucial to veer off the path you think is meant for you (even just slightly), because who knows what could be out there waiting! For some, creating a life vision is easy and attainable. While for others, like myself, it doesn’t come as easily because the world is full of so many learning opportunities and adventures, that it’s hard to just settle and pick one way of life.

And I think that’s where this song comes in. Because, like it says, I am not done changing. I want to gather experiences and see what fits best with me. It’s time to be open to new things and unexpected plans. Plus, if we are constantly changing as people, how can we expect our lives to stay the same? Now, I’m not saying you have to drastically change how you are living at this very moment, but I’m saying that it’s okay to be flexible, and it’s also okay to be content.

As for now, I’m fine with making small changes and seeing what kind of outcomes I can create. At this point I have a lot of scenarios I would like to test out and whatever path I decide to take, I’m sure it will be a good one, and if it’s not then I guess it would be time to try another one. What have you done differently lately? Are there any changes that you want to explore or implement? If so, I encourage you to take a deep breathe and a leap of faith and just go ahead and do it already. Our time is short and we might as well make the most of it.

 

 

 

 

Who Run the World? 

Girls. Duh. You don’t even need to be a fan of Beyoncé to know the answer to that question. Although…it does help that she is basically queen of everything so if she says us women run the world, then we’re not going to object. 

Obviously today I want to talk about women. Now before your mind starts racing, I’ll be more specific. I want to talk about women as a group and how we are generally all the same in our own complex ways. Still lost? Well let me explain…

Recently I attended a Wellness Workshop hosted by my favourite salon (Revitalized in Fairview, AB) and I was able to be a part of something that I whole heartedly believe in. Before I go into detail, I’ll give you a little background on the salon. 

It’s run by two sisters, along with their mom and they have a very energetic and welcoming staff that are always making you laugh and feel your best. They believe in keeping things local and supporting small businesses, as well as striving to spread positivity and love wherever they can. When I think of this group I think of immense support. These are the people who will pick you up off your feet and get you back in the direction you needed to go. So obviously when I heard they were hosting a wellness night, I had to go.

The night consisted of three speakers and their main goal was to help motivate and encourage us all to be the best that we could be, and what better timing than to do it at the beginning of the new year? Each speaker touched on topics of how to implement better eating habits, raise your self esteem, get more involved in any kind of physical activities, and how to be kind to yourself. It was a great example of how us women, when in a group setting, can actually lift each other up and show support and encouragement to people we don’t even know. The energy in the room was radiant and full of empathy. There were a few tears, which is inevitable when you get that many women in one room, but it was a great eye opener in the sense that everyone is fighting their own battles and sometimes a kind word can go a long ways. 


By the end, we all realized that we are much too hard on ourselves, which I think comes naturally for most women, and that there are so many different ways and strategies to starting and living the life we have always wanted. Women tend to put others first and their needs rarely get met. For me, this has always been true, and especially since becoming a mother it’s only magnified. I’m sure I’m not alone in this, and I just wanted to share a few things that I took away from this great night: 

  • No matter your schedule, there’s always opportunities to eat healthy, so research, plan and implement it, sometimes it’s easier than you think 
  • Get a support system. Whether it’s a family member, a couple friends or an online group, have someone to keep you accountable and positive in your journey
  • Practice self love. What hit home with me was “you wouldn’t talk to your children the same way you talk to yourself” so be careful with what you say to yourself and don’t allow negative thoughts to fill your head
  • We are all the same. We all have many insecurities and things we struggle with. So instead of comparing ourselves to others, take a moment and realize that we are all chasing our own goals and be ready to lend a helping hand when needed


Overall, the night left me feeling energized, compassionate towards others and ready to start the year off on the right foot. It was nice to take a step back and realize that hey, we are all in this together, we are all human, and we all just want to be happy. So whatever you may be wanting to do this year, whether it’s lose weight, eat better food, improve your mental health or make a total life change, I suggest you jump in with both feet, make a couple goals and create a plan that will allow you to reach them. We are all capable of doing anything we put our minds to and I hope that this year brings forth some amazing chances for you all 💞 

New Year, Old Me? 

Happy New Years to you all! I’m hoping everyone enjoyed their Christmas and holidays and are ready to tackle the new year! 

A quick Christmas re-cap, we had a very chill and quiet Christmas, which is something we are definitely not used to but totally enjoyed. Casey was sooo into it this year, despite sleeping in until almost 9. So typical! We had a blast watching him open his presents and looking for Santa. Christmas with kids is by far the best, it definitely brings back the sense of excitement with them. Getting to stay home and be in one place all day was absolutely amazing and you can bet your ass I had those mimosas with breakfast. My Christmas spirit doesn’t take much to activate. 

The sweetest boy on Christmas

The weather was as nice as the Christmas sweaters


Anyways, now that the holiday rush is over and we are all back to reality, I’m sure a lot of you are either excited or neutral about the upcoming year. It’s funny how there are so many mixed reactions to a new year, there’s the ones who make a million resolutions (and maybe keep 2), those who see it as just another day and year, and there’s usually the odd few who make a couple goals and actually stick to them. Which one are you? 

As I start the next 365 days, I must say, I feel pretty good about what’s to come. I definitely have a clean slate to work with this year and I plan on filling it with a few great assets. I’m not one to embrace the “New Year, New Me” mantra, because frankly I don’t think it’s necessary. For me, I started this year off feeling like my old self. I used to be confident, happy and secure with my decisions and life, and it’s probably been a solid 3 years since I felt that way. Crazy right? That bubbly, energetic woman is starting to show herself again and that makes me excited in itself. ​As seen below, I was ecstatic to start 2017 in a great outfit and even better mood. 

In 2016 I merely reacted to the circumstances and was basically in survival mode all year. This year, I already feel much stronger (both mentally and physically) and am opting to be proactive and create the circumstances I want. No more sitting around and feeling lost, it’s time to get up and make the things I want happen. Seems easy enough, ha! 

For those of you who do make resolutions or use a simple phrase for the year, I have some suggestions: 

  • Don’t chase people or things
  • If it’s meant to happen, it will 
  • Don’t let anyone be mean to you
  • Be honest with yourself and to others 
  • Eat a vegetable at least twice a day 
  • Plan a holiday or trip! It doesn’t have to be far, just give yourself something to look forward to
  • Happiness. Use that word in every aspect of your life. Do things that make you happy. Be with someone who makes you happy. Say yes to opportunities that will make you happy etc…
  • Be gentle on yourself. Don’t feel guilty over your choices and practice positive self talk. You’re all you have at the end of the day 

I’m sure there’s a lot more we could add to this list, but just remember to keep it simple and enjoy your year no matter what. This could be the year of great change for some people, while for others it’s a continuation from the year before. Either way, enjoy your time and work towards your goals, I know I will be 😉